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Empressed….

July 14, 2009 By: Hiromi Category: Blog

I was invited to the reception being held for the Emperor and Empress of Japan at the Vancouver Convention Centre. An honour and an extremely interesting social event, I spent some time worried about appropriate attire and how one addressed royalty. My mum advised me to speak English, because I wouldn’t be able to manage the intricacies of formal Japanese (true), and my older sister told me that under no circumstance should a person wear open-toed shoes…. Were there around 150 people there? The room was large and I’m not certain. The protocols around dignitaries, order of reception, etc…. Two semi-circles of special guests awaited their turn to greet the royal couple. Several embassy people with clipboards herded them into place, cueing them forward when it was their moment. I watched. Intrigued, bemused, as multiple narratives streamed through my head.
How demanding, their lives, I thought, the neverending line of people to be met, greeted, and always someone else, tomorrow. Protocols, procedure, the public eye their perpetual panopticon. Their lives are not their own– their lives are lived for everyone else.
And a historical and political legacy– this entwined with their physical presence. How does this configure, in the now, when I stand there as a political subject?
And my acute sense of class divide, although the emperor and empress were so much more informal and familiar than I have ever imagined. How has the script of royalty been so impressed upon me in Canada? I’m sure my grandmother’s influence lingers.
A generous embassy person moved me from the throng into the empress’ receiving line. Oh! I thought, startled.
And then I was being introduced, as a writer of children’s literature. The embassy person told her my name, sotto voce, in Japanese.
It is a great honour to meet you, I said in English, as per my mother’s instructions. And bowed. People had been shaking hands with the royal couple, but I thought that was too forward. And, also, so much touching of strangers. I did not want to impose. Watashi was Nikkei desu, I added helpfully. Not unlike Arthur Dent.
My face burned with embarrassment. I was awkward, a mushroom farmer’s daughter, mumbling, and how suprised my grandmother would have been to imagine such a day!
The gracious empress, speaking in a low, soft well-modulated Japanese, said how important and respectable the work of writers, editors, publishers and librarians, for bringing literature to the children.
The children are the citizens of our future, I managed.
The empress extended her hand.
For a microsecond I wondered if I ought to kiss it.
I shook her hand.
Her palm was soft.
I was surprised to find myself profoundly moved.
Her energy, her demeamour was lovely.

I’m thoughtful. Parsing my memories of this morning.

3 Comments to “Empressed….”


  1. What a lovely reflection! I am reminded of a less meaningful experience back in 1986 or so, when I attended a state dinner for youth with Prince Charles and Princess Diana. As I recall, the most stressful aspect of it was the embargo on cigarette smoking in Her Royal Presence, an inconvenience that seemed challenging at the time. Alas, I did not shake any hands; the most intimate my interaction got was when the dysfunctional duo walked past my table and I felt the shift of wind currents as they breezed on by. How bizarre it must be to be the object of attention so continuously.

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  2. It’s a provocative convergence of the relational, historical and personal, isn’t it! And the framing of time….

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  3. Though I always desfine myself as a republican, being Spain a ‘kingdom’ we are more used to seeing (not necessarily meeting) the royal family members. The funny thing about them is that they keep ‘breaking protocol’ every time they show themselves in public as a way, in my opinion, to look more accessible and closer to their people. I have always thought it is a very well studied technique, but people here just go mad about the whole thing and try to shake their hands or kiss them. Last summer I had the opportunity to meet one of the Spanish King’s cousings and her husband (a very well know writer, embassador and ex-TV presenter) at a Buddhist meeting in France, and against all my expectations, they were absolutely friendly, warm and normal, so much for my ‘working class’ prejudices. I was trying to avoid the situation, but I was introduced to the husband and at the very beginning I felt very tense not knowing what to say and after that I felt very tense trying to answer his questions properly….I can’t say I enjoyed the experince very much, but it was quite interesting. Anyway, the funniest thing was that they ended up sitting on chairs in the garden with all of us (Spanish group) and not many of us talikng to them because, I guess, we all felt the same way: what to say…They must feel lonely sometimes.

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